Do you not believe that you deserve to have what you want? When you get what you want, why do you often lose it or mess it up? What is the true story underneath - maybe that you think aren't good enough to have it?
Do you constantly compare yourself to others and then feel badly when compared to them? Comparison doesn't motivate us to do more or be better, instead it makes us feel we'll never be good enough and we aren't right now.
Do you forget all your accomplishments and lack pride in who you are and what you have accomplished? If you obsess about the past or your lack of success or lack of achievement, then you'll be stuck in noticing how much you lack as a person. If you often criticize yourself or can't accept compliments, it’s a definite sign that you have fallen into this trap.
Notice how often you speak about and think about what is not working, not right, or missing from your life. This only attracts more of the things you don’t want.
Self Sabotaging Behavior
Learn ways to overcome anything that could be holding you back from experiencing the joy and attainment of the things that you are wanting in life.
Having trouble reaching all your goals? Are you going for what you want, but feeling like something is road-blocking the way? Are you finding yourself “not” doing some of the things you know you should be doing?
You may be a victim of sabotage---self-sabotage. Following is a few items to ponder over to see if you are self-sabotaging the things you want most in life.
Do you worry a lot about the future and what is going to happen or might happen? Are you thinking about your fears so much that you are paralyzed and take no action because of fear of what might occur?
"The majority of us lead quiet, unheralded lives as we pass through this world. There will most likely be no tickertape parades for us, no monuments created in our honor. But that does not lessen our possible impact, for there are scores of people waiting for someone just like us to come along; people who will appreciate our compassion, our encouragement, who will need our unique talents. Someone who will live a happier life merely because we took the time to share what we had to give. Too often we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment, or the smallest act of caring, all of which have the potential to turn a life around. It's overwhelming to consider the continuous opportunities there are to make our love felt." -- Leo Buscaglia
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Losing Yourself to What You Want the Most
Is it Love or Obsession
Sometimes wanting something more than life itself can be a real blessing. It pretty much means that you are focused, maybe have even set a goal, have a plan and taking action on what it is you are trying to achieve or obtain. The results of this type of endeavor make you feel good about yourself and give you the feeling that you are moving ahead in life. Sometimes, when a goal is very important and something you absolutely have to have - obsession with your goal is what keeps you focused and excited when you near the end. For example, I am planning a trip in the next year. To prepare, I have to save money, purchase airline tickets, reserve a room and find the ever difficult task of finding someone to stay with my dog. Now, once I have made the decision to go, I am so excited that I think about my trip every day, even dream and visualize a bit about seeing myself at the vacation spot that I have chosen. This is good obsession.
Now, the opposite end of the spectrum - what would negative obsession look or feel like. In the years that I have been doing this work, I have noticed that love relationships can trip over into obsessive thoughts and feelings. Here's a few points to ponder:
Is he constantly on your mind.
Is every decision you make centered around him.
Do you put him first before yourself.
Have you forgotton about yourself, family, & friends
Do you think you can't live without him.
Are you hypersensitive to every look, word, or action towards you .
If he doesn't love you back do you wait with the hope that he will change.
This is not love. This is obsession and an illusion. Most obsessive relationships are one-sided. Every breath the person takes is centered around him versus your own life. You can still be in a love relationship with another, love that person deeply, and still stay focused on the things that you like to do or need to do. Why would you stay in a relationship that doesn't make you happy. Many obsessed relationships do just that. The person seems to be the target for all of the things that the obsessed person hasn't gotten or didn't get and they feel that this one person, if they could just have them, would make their world right! If you need help in this area, you will find my loving, wise counsel to support you in love and light.
Friendship is a Blessing...
Friendship is a blessing, and a friend is the channel through whom great emotional, spiritual, and sometimes even physical blessings flow. Friends can cheer us when we’re sorrowful or depressed. Friends can challenge us when we allow ourselves to get beyond our reasonable boundaries. Friends can motivate us when we’re ready to give in, and they can provide for us when life falls apart. They are there when all is well, and we want someone with whom to share life’s pleasant and memorable moments. We often just want them around to have a good time, to laugh, to act silly, to enjoy some mutually liked activity. In how many ways have friends enriched our lives and made us feel loved, accepted, respected and cared for? Probably, too many to list, and the list grows daily.
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Boosting Your Self Esteem
Honor and love yourself . It is impossible to love and honor yourself if you are constantly blaming . Blaming means that you don't take responsibility for your life.
How do I get out of this trap? Change your negative self-talk. Changing your negative self talk is a great boost . Give yourself permission to ask for your needs, say no, and see your beauty.
Do not judge other people. Change your mindset immediately. When you judge others you are actually judging yourself.
Stop feeling guilty. If want to eat chocolate or a piece of cake, etc. eat it without guilt. The same if you need a nap , play or just relax and do nothing.
Don't take personally another persons criticism. Some people to think that they are better than others put them down.
Exercising helps boosting self esteem , your mood, body image and improve self confidence. It is really important to choose an exercise you enjoy doing.
Have a sense of humor. Start feeling happy and expanded. Learn to laugh at yourself. People that are unable to laugh at themselves because of their own insecurities and fears stay stuck..
Today, inspite of anything that is going on in my life that would be considered negative or a challenge, I will try to maintain a positive outlook. I will work through the challenge and know that on the other side of it, my life will be better.
Inspite of any physical pain I am in, I will try and remember that there is a message in the pain and that if I can figure out the message, I may not be able to rid myself of pain.
Inspite of my finances being restricted, I will try to do the best with what I have and work towards a better tomorrow.
Please know that you are not alone, likewise, whatever difficulties you are experiencing in time, they too will be resolved. And know that someone's praying for you.
Love Dogs
He is your friend, your partner, your defender, your dog.
You are his life, his love, his leader.
